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I wanted to create a space to empower parents and caregivers with tools to help their children. Working with children is my passion. About Having Our Say Meet Shontaye Having Our Say is a private practice providing assessments and intervention services for children. I provide home-based services to families, which is convenient and allows children to practice skills and learn in their natural environment. I cannot be everywhere so I wanted to also create a virtual space to empower parents and caregivers with tools to help their children. Working with children is my passion and making changes in their lives brings me joy! I am a proud alumnus of Morgan State University in Baltimore, MD (Go Bears!) and received my Masters of Science degree in Communication Disorders from William Paterson University in my home state of New Jersey. My career as an SLP began in a hospital setting, where I worked with adults and children. Since that time, I have become a wife and mother to two beautiful daughters and transitioned into the public school and private practice settings. My experience includes assessment and treatment of children and adults with various diagnoses and disorders. I am ASHA-certified (since 2002) and licensed to practice in New Jersey and New York. Over the years, I have treated wonderful adults, but my joy is working with children and their families. My practice was birthed from that passion. With this site I hope to extend my reach and provide tips to parents and caregivers to help their children’s language skills develop, grow, and thrive! My hope is that Having Our Say becomes a place where parents can come to gain information as well as a place to ask questions and have their say too.

Having Our Say provides individualized therapy & family coaching for: Articulation & Speech Sound Disorders, Language Delays & Disorders Childhood, Early Intervention, Apraxia of Speech. Social Skills / Pragmatics, Cognitive Delays​ Having Our Say provides mobile speech and language therapy services to children and their caregivers, which is not only convenient but also allows children to practice and learn skills in their natural environment. With a deep understanding of the role families play in their children’s progress, we work to provide the highest quality therapy and resources to empower parents and caregivers with tools to ensure ongoing success. Serving Northern NJ: Fort Lee, Edgewater, Cliffside Park, Palisades Park, Maplewood, West Orange and South Orange. THERAPY SERVICES Be Seen & Heard® Thearpy Services Therapy sessions are scheduled for 30-45 minutes and frequency is determined based on the need of each individual and as a team with the family. Therapy is at home (or school) and we always invite families to be an active member of the team and therapy sessions. Articulation & Speech Sound Disorders Language Delays and Disorders Early Intervention Social Skills / Pragmatics Cognitive Delays Individualized Therapy & Family Coaching for: Evaluations Comprehensive Evaluations for: Receptive & Expressive Communication Skills Phonological & Articulation Development Social Communication Skills Evaluations include both standardized test measures, as well as parent and client interview, file reviews from previous testing or therapy, screenings, language samples, and home and/or school observations Following the evaluation, you will receive a comprehensive report with the evaluation results, summary, and recommendations. We will use the evaluation to guide the development of a personalized therapy plan, goals, and objectives. Contact Us

Children's picture books that discuss Diversity in STEM. BACK DIVERSITY IN STEM STEM (science, technology, engineering, and math) is for everyone, but women and people of color have been underrepresented in the field for years. This section contains picture books for preschool children as well as titles for young readers and middle school to help all children learn about STEM and explore their own potential.

I love using toys in therapy—almost as much as I love playing with them. What may look like “just playing” is actually children learning, communicating, and making sense of their environment. When you select toys that support language and play, children develop language, practice social skills, and connect meaningfully with others. As a speech-language pathologist, I shop for toys with intention. Yes, they should be fun—but they should also support learning. The toys I choose help children maintain attention, practice turn-taking, learn new vocabulary, follow directions, and engage in shared play. Here are a few things to consider when shopping for toys: 1. Choose Developmentally Appropriate Toys Select toys that match the child’s developmental level, not just their chronological age. Toys that are too advanced can be frustrating, while toys that are too simple may limit engagement and learning opportunities. 2. Limit Noisy and Light-Up Toys to Support Language As adults, we often assume that high-tech toys are best for learning. In reality, talking or noisy toys can limit opportunities for interaction and encourage solitary play. Children may become hyper-focused on the lights and sounds rather than using their own language or engaging with others. Simple toys often create richer opportunities for communication. 3. Don’t Forget the Classics Classic toys never go out of style—and for good reason. Shape sorters, pop-up toys, toy cars and trucks, stacking rings, and blocks are excellent for toddlers and preschoolers. These toys encourage imagination, problem-solving, and interaction with a play partner. Other great options include baby dolls, Mr. Potato Head, puzzles, action figures, and cash registers. 4. Encourage Pretend Play Child-sized tool benches, play kitchens, grocery sets, dress-up clothes, and tea sets are always a hit. These toys allow children to use their own language, role-play real-life experiences, take turns, solve problems, and build social communication skills. 5. Say Yes to Board and Card Games Board games are fun and packed with learning opportunities. They teach turn-taking, following rules, problem-solving, and language skills. While “old-school” games may seem boring to some, they shouldn’t be overlooked for their developmental value. As you shop for new toys, think about what a toy can do and  what skills it can help teach. There’s nothing wrong with sneaking a little learning into the fun—especially when play is the best teacher of all.

Many caregivers wonder whether their child’s speech or language differences are something they’ll “grow out of” or a sign that professional support may help. While every child develops at their own pace, there are times when seeking guidance from a speech-language pathologist (SLP) can make a meaningful difference. Signs to Watch For You may want to consider a speech and language evaluation if your child: Uses fewer words than expected for their age Has difficulty understanding directions or following routines Their speech is hard for familiar caregivers or teachers to understand Becomes frustrated when trying to communicate Does not combine words by around age two Has lost words or communication skills they previously used For older children, concerns may include difficulty with storytelling, following classroom directions, or social communication with peers. Trust Your Instincts Caregivers know their children best. If something doesn’t feel right—even if others say “just wait and see”—it’s okay to ask questions. An evaluation does not automatically mean therapy is needed, but it can provide clarity, reassurance, or early support if necessary. Early Support Matters Research consistently shows that early intervention leads to stronger communication outcomes. Speech and language therapy isn’t about labeling a child—it’s about giving them tools to express themselves and connect with others. The Bottom Line If you have concerns, seeking professional input is a proactive step, not an overreaction. A licensed SLP can help determine whether your child is developing as expected or could benefit from extra support. Contact us for a free consultation.

As a pediatric speech-language pathologist, I’m often asked, “What can I do at home to help my child’s language skills?” My answer is almost always the same: use what you’re already doing. You don’t need special flashcards, apps, or extra hours in the day. Two of the richest opportunities for language development happen daily—mealtime and bath time. These routines are predictable, interactive, and full of natural chances to talk, listen, and connect. Use these simple, realistic ways to support your child’s language during these everyday moments. Why Routines Matter for Language Development Children learn language best through repetition, connection, and meaning . Routines like meals and baths offer: Predictable sequences (“first we wash, then we rinse”) Shared attention (you and your child focused on the same activity) Built-in vocabulary and actions Natural turn-taking When children know what to expect, they’re more likely to participate, attempt words, and engage in communication—whether that’s through sounds, gestures, signs, or sentences. Language-Building at Mealtime Mealtime is great for communication—and it doesn’t have to be quiet or perfect. 1. Narrate What’s Happening Talk about what you’re doing as you do it: “Here's a spoon.” “Where's the cup? Here it is.” “Drink milk.” This helps children connect words to actions and objects. 2. Offer Choices Instead of yes/no questions, try: “Do you want apple or banana ?” **Choices encourage communication at all levels—pointing, signing, vocalizing, or speaking. 3. Expand What Your Child Says If your child says: “Cracker” → “Yes, a crunchy cracker!” “More” → “More pasta, please!” **You’re modeling slightly longer language without pressure. 4. Talk About the Senses. Food naturally invites descriptive language: “This is crunchy.” “That’s sweet.” “The soup is hot—blow!” ** These words build vocabulary and support comprehension. Language-Building at Bath Time 🛁 Bath time is playful, hands-on, and often one-on-one—perfect for communication. 1. Use Repetitive, Predictable Language Bath routines repeat daily, which helps language stick: “Wash, rinse, dry.” “On… off.” “In the tub, out of the tub.” Repetition builds understanding and confidence. 2. Label Body Parts and Actions Use simple words and phrases: “Wash hands.” “Splash feet.” “Soap on your tummy.” You’re supporting both vocabulary and body awareness. 3. Follow Your Child’s Lead If your child is pouring water, floating toys, or splashing: Talk about what they’re interested in Avoid redirecting unless needed for safety Children learn best when language matches their focus. 4. Sing and Play with Sounds Songs and sound effects make language fun: “Row, Row, Row Your Boat” “Splash!” “Uh-oh!” “Pop!” These playful sounds support early communication skills. If your child uses gestures, signs, sounds, or a communication device— that counts ! All forms of communication are valid and meaningful. And if you ever have concerns about your child’s speech or language development, reaching out to a licensed speech-language pathologist can provide clarity and support. Final Thought The best language opportunities aren’t found in worksheets—they’re found in everyday moments together. By slowing down and talking through routines, you’re giving your child powerful tools to communicate with confidence. If you’d like more caregiver-friendly tips or support, contact Having Our Say —we’re here to help every step of the way. ✨

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